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My mum was a 17-year-old free spirit so she was locked up and put in a coma

3rodents

A familiar story even today in the U.S:

https://time.com/6997172/teen-torture-max-abuse-documentary/

“They are often a last resort for parents struggling with children with behavioral problems, suicidal thoughts, and substance abuse issues. Depending on the state, these rehab centers—a multi-billion-dollar industry—have few regulations, and there are no overarching federal standards governing them. Many are faith-based facilities designed to convert teens into born-again Christians and are therefore exempt from regulation in some states.”

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Turn-About_Ranch

https://helpingsurvivors.org/troubled-teen-programs/turn-abo...

plqbfbv

If anybody wants to read a comic with the perspective of someone that went through one of these places and spent the years after fighting against them, I stumbled upon this one a few years ago: https://elan.school/

I am not in any way affiliated with the author, it's just one of the few books with real content that I've read in a long time.

zoklet-enjoyer

Great comic and there's a documentary about that place. Very messed up that's it's a whole child abuse industry.

nekusar

Might take a karma hit for this, but whatever. Its the truth.

Christians are more concerned about *causing* extreme child abuse, and then turning around and claiming its to "save them", so the abuse isnt reallllly abuse.

Most of these camps cited are christian. And the people running them? Dogmatic christian fundamentalists. And these are the same types that run "pray the gay away" camps too.

And my inflammatory, albeit true comment also goes right back to the heart of the article:

"Reformatories were institutions where girls and young women who refused to conform to the Franco regime's Catholic values were detained - single mothers, girls with boyfriends, lesbians. Girls who'd been sexually assaulted were incarcerated, assuming the blame for their own abuse. Orphans and abandoned girls might also find themselves living behind convent walls."

Extremist Roman Catholic "values", demonization and imprisonment of 'unruly women', anti-LGBTQ. Same damned thing, again and again.

When are we going to actually look at these issues dispassionately and realize that religion itself is the problem?

rayiner

Meanwhile, we have a crisis in the U.S. of people sleeping and dying in the streets because we shut down all the mental hospitals and involuntary commitment. Every system will have some percentage of adverse outcomes. Approaching the issue emotionally instead of dispassionately and with a view towards typical outcomes is an anti-social and dangerous approach.

areoform

    > Meanwhile, we have a crisis in the U.S. of people sleeping and dying in the streets because we shut down all the mental hospitals and involuntary commitment. Every system will have some percentage of adverse outcomes. Approaching the issue emotionally instead of dispassionately and with a view towards typical outcomes is an anti-social and dangerous approach.
Please correct me if I'm wrong. But are you saying we should abuse young people and children en masse because mentally ill homeless people exist?

    > Approaching the issue emotionally [..] is an anti-social and dangerous approach
This statement should be incompatible with a place that values curiosity and freedom.

It is alarming to read such things on HN. When the heck did we go from the hacker spirit / "information wants to be free" to authoritarian lap dogs?

AlexandrB

I'm sorry, but you are completely strawmanning the parent. Nothing they said is typical of an "authoritarian lap dog". The point being made is rather modest: that sometimes involuntary commitment is necessary to help someone when their brain is working against them. Obviously this kind of power can be abused, but the current approach leaves those who need that kind of help to fend for themselves.

But I guess involuntary commitment makes people feel icky so fuck those guys, right?

cyost

The purpose of a system is what it does.

You seem to believe that these are adverse, uncommon, and unintended outcomes rather than part of the machinery of the troubled teen industry, the school-to-prison pipeline, poverty, and capitalist/protestant propaganda in general. Involuntary commitment would be a threat and weapon in the current political environment, as in the thread OP where the same was used in Francoist Spain.

Perhaps you should investigate your own biases and emotions toward the people chewed up and spit out by society before calling out a comment as "emotional" and "anti-social".

stuckinhell

She threw molotov cockatails I don't think it's similar at all.

she was lucky she wasn't imprisoned or executed

maxldn

Why do you keep saying she wasn’t imprisoned? She was imprisoned in a convent and then in a mental institution.

Edit: clarification

mothballed

Yesterday a popular post here advocated that your kids finding porn means you are guilty of 'neglect.' That's a serious criminal charge and accusation. People will take drastic steps to avoid prison.

Natural result of that is catch-22, parent can't actually stop teenage kids from such activity except through what amounts to torture. As always either way, the parent is damned.

twodave

Sounds like either someone with very young kids or else someone with a dismissive/naive parenting style. For kids born since the mid-80s “hiding the porn” has been a lot harder than locking magazines in a closet. It’s not a matter of if, but when. And however you feel about porn, it’s infinitely more important to help your kids feel safe talking to you about it than to try and prevent them ever seeing it. Kids who don’t feel safe or tolerated will lie almost 100% of the time, at which point you can no longer help them. I say this as someone whose parents would rather have believed I wasn’t watching porn and therefore didn’t make the effort to normalize talking about sex at all. My wife and I do limit our kids’ access to the Internet quite a bit, but we aren’t naive to the fact that they’ll all see something at some point either.

mothballed

>Sounds like either someone with very young kids or else someone with a dismissive/naive parenting style.

Increasingly this is what the tyranny of the majority is in the western world. People who don't have kids, or only limited experience with kids, declaring that parents are neglecting or abusing their children because they don't behave the way the hypothetical ideologically pure parent would. Almost every single one of them has a cell-phone and the second they see something they disapprove of they can call CPS at the drop of a hat and make your life a living hell, even if you are 'innocent' of even whatever BS they made up.

As always, it's just a smug attempt at moral superiority. They want the intoxicating power rush from threatening and imposing on parents, with none of the responsibility, and the state is all too happy to provide it to them. Just punish and then rest soundly knowing you have no kids of your own for which you could be prosecuted.

Aeolun

Damn, my whole country must be guilty of neglect then!

mothballed

Lol this is the USA. I've been interrogated when a stranger drove past my rather remote property, in the middle of nowhere, and saw that my child was walking about 50 feet "by herself" on her own fucking property(I was actually watching her, just from further away, so I was able to intervene before they called CPS).

Welcome to America where you must watch the kid every second until they turn 18, except at the moment they turn 18 they must be booted from the house to figure everything out all at once with nothing more than a minimum wage job, a gun, and rents that reach the stratosphere.

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rayiner

Similar stories were used to shut down mental hospitals in the U.S. and look what happened after that.

youdunnowhat

What happened? And please, make sure to demonstrate your position empirically, specifically drawing a causal relationship between shutting down torturous mental institutions and whatever outcome you think that has.

stuckinhell

"Soon, Mariona joined her new friends on "raids": a few of them would block off a street, throw Molotov cocktails, hand out leaflets, and when the police turned up, scatter in every direction."

okay she threw molotov cocktails, she was lucky she wasn't imprisoned.

lkey

A) She was still a child. B) She was imprisoned, repeatedly, and tortured, as the article discusses. C) Is it your opinion that everyone was "lucky" to live in 1968 Spain under Franco. Or just her?

scoofy

Nobody wanted her tortured except the criminals torturing her.

Throwing Molotov cocktail is trivially an criminal offense. OP is making it clear that framing it as she was a “free spirit” is ridiculous.

arp242

> Throwing Molotov cocktail is trivially an criminal offense.

This is a protest against a fascist regime we're talking about. I don't know the exact context of any of this because I'm not Spanish, don't speak the language, and don't really know all that much about the nuance of 1968 Spain. I'm fairly sure you're just as ignorant of this as I am but the difference is that I'm withholding strong judgement one way or the other instead of jumping on one detail.

I do know that throwing a bunch of tea you don't own in the sea is also trivially a criminal offence. Kicking the shit out of an SS-officer is also trivially a criminal offence. etc. etc. You can have a long discussion about when violence is or isn't justified. I don't know enough about this specific situation to have a strong opinion. But pretty much everyone agrees that at some point you need to look beyond the law and trying to reduce this to just a matter of the law is massively naïve at best.

HiPhish

> A) She was still a child.

Please don't call a 17-year old person a child. It's not as if on the night between 17 years, 11 months and 30 days, and 18 years humans undergo some sort of metamorphosis.

arp242

Yes I agree, which is probably why we should treat 18-year olds more as children than adults (although obviously they are in-between the two). Brains continue to develop to the age of about 25.

corpoposter

I find this a profoundly odd response to the story. Is your intent to excuse her abusive treatment by the religious, medical, and government authorities of a totalitarian regime?

Your comment is treating her with full agency (i.e. "she shouldn't have done anything bad or disruptive") and completely ignoring the agency of the institutions that harmed her (i.e. "what did she expect in response?").

hitarpetar

it's Francoist Spain. people were imprisoned for much less (hence the molotovs)

HiPhish

> "We suffered a lot too," he told her when she asked him about the family decision to have her locked up in Madrid.

Ah yes, good old "it hurts me more than it hurts you".

lifestyleguru

Was there ever a relatively peaceful and prosperous period in Europe for a non elite average person? Maybe only the 1990s and only in France, (Western) Germany, Spain, Italy, and Switzerland?

spacechild1

Actually, most of Western, Northern and Central Europe since the 1960s. Notable exceptions are Spain (under Franco) and Ireland (until the 1990s).

tiahura

… throw Molotov cocktails …

Just an ordinary free-spirited girl who unfathomably got put into a reform school. The BBC certainly has a point of view it wants to advance.

crazygringo

I think there are points on both sides.

I think you're right that the BBC is being irresponsible in putting "my mum was a 17-year-old free spirit" in the headline -- even though it's a quote, it does imply a level of BBC editorial agreement with the characterization. It makes her sound like she was just an innocent hippie or something.

On the other hand, this wasn't vandalism for vandalism's sake. It was political protest against a dictatorship. It's not like she was engaging in criminal acts for the fun of it or for personal gain, so the snippet you choose is similarly misleading without the context of why.

scoofy

Violence isn’t speech. Calling Molotov cocktailing a street “protest” is absurd. It’s effectively armed conflict.

crazygringo

Where did I say anything about speech? Were you under the impression that protests are inherently non-violent? Violent protests are absolutely a thing. That's why "non-violent protest" is a term.

And of course it's armed conflict. But the point is that it's armed conflict against a fascist dictatorship killing over 100,000 civilians by most estimates -- which is what makes it considered legitimate violent protest by many people.

7jjjjjjj

Armed conflict against fascist dictators is a good thing.

noelwelsh

Do you think "My mum was a 17-year-old free spirit - so she was locked up and put in a coma" could perhaps be the words of the person they interviewed? Could this perhaps by why it is written in the first-person? Where in the article does the BBC claim she was an "ordinary free-spirited girl"?

What do you believe the purpose of this article is? Do you think it is advancing a policy agenda, in which case which policies is it advocating for? Or is it perhaps just documenting what happened and the impressions of those effected by what happened?

ToValueFunfetti

The BBC has editorial control over their headlines. The wording in the article is unclear and it may not be a mischaracterization. But, assuming that it is, 'someone lied to us and so we put it into our headline' is not a defense that turns bad journalism into good.

Latty

It's an obvious quote, unless you think people are going to misunderstand and think that the BBC as a publication is talking about it's mother somehow. Quotes are generally well understood to be the view of the person giving it, not the publication.

delichon

I can only hope I would have done the same in Franco's dictatorship. But I'd have expected prison rather than a convent.

graemep

Its not that simple. I do not know about Franco's Spain, but violent rebellion does not usually make things better. Most violent revolutions end up replacing one dictatorship with another.

lkey

Choosing to substitute a general principle instead of reading about the particular event as it happened 50 years ago... that likely informed the formation of that principle...

When you have nothing to add, say nothing:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Spanish_transition_to_democrac...

Or have the courtesy to do the reading.

impossiblefork

Even when it's gone really badly, like the Russian revolution, the revolution was a huge improvement.

80% illiteracy. I think revolutions almost always go well because you usually have to be really terrible to cause one to happen.

Aeolun

> Most violent revolutions end up replacing one dictatorship with another.

Don’t those new violent dictators also tend to be more aligned with the people revolting?

Anyway, it kinda makes sense to me that the people advocating for change through violent means don’t suddenly stop being violent when they get to power.

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mothballed

Parents don't want their kids executed or sentenced to life in prison because they ended up burning people to death. And there is no way to ensure arson only burns fascists. They were probably desperately looking for a way to save her from that.

Can't say I'd have done the same choice, but it makes it more understandable.

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Aeolun

Isn’t that relatively normal? They’re really easy to make.

The ‘throw molotov cocktails’ are mentioned in the same sentence as ‘hand out leaflets’, which makes me feel the surrounding people were generally not panicking about the fire. Hard to say without reading the book though.

NooneAtAll3

no

throwing molotov cocktails is in NO way "normal"

squarefoot

Yes, not normal in a normal context. However if you're fighting against a dictatorship it fully qualifies as heroism. When dictatorship comes to your country (madness is growing everywhere so be prepared) you'll be grateful for anyone fighting against it, or one day you'll be the one writing "... then one day they came for me, but there was no one left to fight for me".

layer8

Under a dictatorship it ought to be.

lkey

A) She was still a child. Her parents had full control over her.

B) She was imprisoned, and tortured, as the article discusses.

C) What POV would you prefer?

D) This was Franco's Spain, what do you imagine yourself doing at a time like that?

wkjagt

I spent some time in Northern Ireland in 2001 (Derry mostly). At one point there was a sudden fire in the back yard of the youth hostel I was staying at. When I mentioned it, the owner of the youth hostel said "it's just a Molotov cocktail".

BirAdam

Perhaps the modern world has softened the term fascist dictator by using it for regimes to which it only partially applies.

The generalissimo used forced labor not unlike the DPRK, made widespread use of concentration camps, and was quite fond of executing dissidents. All religions other than Catholicism were outlawed and all political parties were outlawed.

Why would opposition to a murderous dictator be a bad thing? It isn’t as though the protestors/rioters/rebels were the ones escalating the situation. The government was already killing people. This could easily be viewed as justified violent opposition in the pursuit of stopping more murder.

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emsign

Ugh! This is so disgusting. Look! Fascists are even seeing women as their enemy. But that makes Fascism everyone's enemy, they're actually in the minority but the way they are staying in power is by making everyone hate on each other more than hating on them. Be aware of people spreading hate on one group of people after another, it's their takeover plan. Divide and conquer.

GeoAtreides

what is this thread

people supporting a totalitarian fascist regime, blaming the victim...

"Shouldn't fight against the regime, violence is bad mmmkay"... "she threw molotov cocktails, she deserved it"...

what is happening, i feel like i'm taking crazy pills

Herring

I don't know why you're surprised. This place is primarily about making money.

Businesses are set up like tiny little fascist dictatorships. They are always trying to pay less taxes, evade regulations, layoff workers, monopolize, destroy competitors etc. They don't know anything about the public sphere, or common good, or government, or democracy, or rule of law etc. They suck at that, it goes against all their training and instincts.

Jtsummers

You're not wrong about the strong emphasis on money making and profitability in HN comments (it was started as much as a forum for startup or wannabe startup founders as a tech forum), but it's also had a significant libertarian (little-l) streak. It's kind of hard to square that libertarianism with the apparent support of Franco's regime seen in the comments here today.

Herring

Study your history, because that’s an old story. The Puritans who settled in Massachusetts Bay did not try to establish religious freedom in the modern, pluralistic sense. They just wanted freedom to practice their own religion. They were intolerant of dissent and quickly established their own orthodoxies. Individuals who challenged their religious and civil authority, such as Roger Williams and Anne Hutchinson, were banished. Quakers who arrived later were brutally persecuted, with some being executed.

pessimizer

There's very little little-l libertarianism here. It's always anti-Communist Reagan-Greenspan style Objectivism disguised as little-l libertarianism.

They can seem like libertarians because they believe that they themselves should be able to do whatever they want whenever they want, but any activism is of the consumer-rights variety i.e. "I can do whatever I want with my property!"

Under Franco, the mean HNer would be upset that they couldn't buy (or create) whatever book they wanted or any piece of art they wanted. That's it. They'd even preface that objection with an "admission" that most of the books or art that Franco would ban were terrible and shouldn't be read or looked at.

Franco himself was weak, soft, and like the 3rd choice to rule fascist Spain. His position and his government was due to the tacit support of people very similar to HN users today. At least he's keeping the Russians away...

throwawayohio

Kind of on brand for this site these days, tbh. A brand of anti social that believes disruption done for anything but monetary gain deserves extreme punishment, regardless of circumstance.

scoofy

You’re reading people, like myself, who are upset with the articles framing, because it has created a causal link between the reasonable concern that a parent would have with a child engaging in political violence, with the result of a corrupt reformatory program.

Yes, being raped and given electro-shock treatment IS BAD. It’s also very much not what her parents signed her up for by turning her into a reformatory.

Nobody here is defending a fascist regime. We’re just complaining about horrible editorializing.

Edit: these downvotes… SMH

hexbin010

Any discussion about Franco always attracts cool heads and reasoned discussion

/s

Gujjel

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loloquwowndueo

There are five photos in the article and I can’t for the life of me figure out which one you’re talking about. Or what you’re talking about at all for that matter. Care to elaborate?

croes

So tell what has mixed-race to do with going too far in the opposite direction?

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Gujjel

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relling

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