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Around the World, Many People Are Leaving Their Childhood Religions

kelseyfrog

I left in my teens. Religion seemed, at that time and still does, appears to reinforce systems of power and conformity rather than do good.

Non-believers often ask themselves, "what god would have the ability to eliminate suffering and choose not to?" We should also ask, "What religious institution and followers, having amassed the riches of the world, would choose not to eliminate suffering when they could?"

The weight of these contradictions eventually breaks belief. There's one way to win back believers and it's to eliminate in-group/out-group dynamics and replace it with material acts of benevolence - akin to large scale public works projects to eliminate suffering.

Filligree

> There's one way to win back believers and it's to eliminate in-group/out-group dynamics and replace it with material acts of benevolence - akin to large scale public works projects to eliminate suffering.

That would make me think more of the organisations in question, but I don’t understand why it would affect belief. It has no bearing on the correctness of the claims they make.

jqpabc123

It has no bearing on the correctness of the claims they make.

It has bearing on the veracity of those making the claims.

Why *believe* claims from those whose actions prove they don't really believe it themselves? If they did truly *believe*, they would certainly be acting much differently.

"Do as I say, not as a I do" is not a convincing argument to most rational people.

spwa4

Almost all believers I have ever known were believers for social reasons, for belonging to a group. I've yet to meet the first one (that wasn't 6 years old) that had actual belief.

Christianity is falling apart because all groups are falling apart in traditional Christian countries, including other religions, including everything from Tennis clubs to Latin study groups.

kelseyfrog

It's difficult to imagine a religion that would be approve of having the ability to alleviate suffering and choose not to. It would seem to run contrary to the love and altruistic behavior that religions tend to profess as part of their belief system. Perhaps I'm mistaken that religions don't incorporate this as part of their belief systems?

627467

I don't think this is religious institution v non-religious institutions scenario where the first stopped caring and the second cares. I think it's: more comfortable/complacent societies don't care about eliminating suffering so established institutions (religious or not) just stopped caring too. Plenty less-established religious institution are (at least) convincing enough people they are focused on reducing suffering. (in Christianity look at the evangelical movement around the world)

BJones12

> I think it's: more comfortable/complacent societies don't care about eliminating suffering so established institutions (religious or not) just stopped caring too

This seems accurate to me. To wit: https://principiadiscordia.com/book/45.php

But instead of 'just stopped caring' I might substitute 'realize they don't have the resources or power to fix the root cause and are resigned to reducing suffering on a small scale'.

kmeisthax

It's also important to keep in mind how much power Christianity has lost over the past few decades, to the point where most religious authorities have firmly chucked the whole "actually helping people" thing out the window in favor of power maintenance. Don't worry, Billy, once we've made women barefoot and pregnant again and wiped the gays off the face of the planet we can totally have our faith-based socialist[0] utopia.

Of course, their kids saw this as immediately, obviously wrong and disassociated from their parents. Then they proceeded to join the Democratic Party, bringing all of their entirely ineffectual political tools along with them. This was, again, very useful for helping a certain subset of elites[1] retain position in the social hierarchy but not useful at achieving any of our stated goals. Don't worry, @jointheresistance2016, once we've cancelled enough old fogeys in Hollywood and found someone who can pass all of our purity tests, we can totally have our Fully Automated Luxury Gay Space Communist utopia.

The answer to "OH. WELL, THEN STOP." is "But if we do that, then the bad guys win!" We've been drowning ourselves in outrage, accelerated by new communications technologies[2], as the people who actually run the show are plotting to see how quickly they can get everyone else to kill each other. Everyone is vying to grab as much power as they can as quickly as they can to impose their ideas upon everyone.

Free societies are built on a bedrock of decentralization, trustworthiness, and humanity[3]. Whether the institutions have the word "government" or "religion" (or "union") written on them matters less than if they're able to meaningfully resist attempts to divide and conquer the public. The more an institution focuses on gaining power, the less they care about eliminating suffering. I mean, why would they? That suffering is the point. It both eliminates a group of people as potential competing powers as well as creates a justification for you continuing to centralize power.

[0] I am perfectly aware that using this adjective is going to make many a Marxist's heads spin. Bear with me.

[1] Us (as in, the average tech worker) and our bosses (who have fucked off to the Trump Train)

[2] Specifically, cable TV and social media. The relative political harmony of the 1950s was aided by a deep and pervasive government censorship regime, whose harms are unrelated to this rant but were arguably worse.

[3] Or if your particular political ideolect prefers, "diversity, equity, and inclusion".

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missedthecue

It always seemed a logistical disconnect to me that people conclude god isn't good, therefore he doesn't exist. It's a non-sequitur.

mrob

It's not a non-sequitur. The usual reason people believe in a god is because some religious group says that the god exists. Those religious groups usually also claim that their god is good. If they're wrong about the goodness, why shouldn't they be wrong about the existence too?

missedthecue

Just because someone is wrong about one thing does not mean they're wrong about everything else too. That does not follow, rationally.

surgical_fire

That's not how it works.

"God exists and he is good" is mentioned as fact. The evidence of the existence of God would be his goodness - call it miracles if you will.

In a world where you perceive the absence of this goodness removes the only evidence provided. The logical consequence is not that god exists and is malevolent, the logical consequence is that the goodness is not there because God does not exist.

missedthecue

The 'miracles' can easily exist alongside his badness. I'm not sure why everyone makes it out to be either/or. There is no universal law that says being both can't logically be true. I mean, there's an easy way to prove this. If I said humans exist and humans are good, you could point out Hitler, and all it does is prove humans are good and bad, and doesn't test whether they exist. And in fact it doesn't even prove that they aren't good, just that they are also bad.

So if someone says "god exists and he is good" and all you end up doing is disputing the second statement... you didn't even touch the first.

card_zero

The Gnostic demiurge is fun. An antagonistic creator.

cjfd

That depends on how once conceives god. For instance, Anselm defined god as a being than which no greater can be conceived. If one accepts that definition, it is in fact a sequitur.

TylerLives

Without suffering everything would become meaningless instantly. It would be like playing a video game with cheats.

dmd

Glad to hear it. I could use more meaning in my life. Please sign over all your wealth to me, so you can suffer some more.

balamatom

"I could use more meaning in my life."

Telling. (Me, I could definitely use even less.)

I think GP has a point, but it kinda works the other way around. (Which is common among unexamined intuitions.)

Basically, you can't represent any data with just ones, or just zeros. And the most basic unit of meaningful sensory data is "suffering/not suffering".

As long as there's any difference between "more preferable" and "less preferable" states of being (and not a uniform homogeneous universe, or alternatively a universe free from subjects able to prefer -- neither of which would not be much of a universe anyway), there will exist suffering caused by being in the less preferable state; and, conversely, the striving towards the more preferable one will be experienced as meaningful.

(And once you're in the most preferable state available to you, "meaning" becomes somehow unimportant. It's why they say "struggle builds character" -- "character" is one name for the ability to discern personally relevant meaning. It's also why it's easy for "personal fulfillment" to make a person kinda dumb -- unless they keep challenging themselves in actually meaningful ways.)

The evident paradox of "why would God not prevent suffering" is therefore a bit nonsensical, like most Christian doctrine (if you look at the history of Christianity past the point of being made state religion of the very empire that persecuted it -- no mean feat! -- you can see how it's pretty much designed by committee). Among extant religions, Buddhism seems to have the most no-nonsense treatment of the question.

On a practical scale one can see something similar in the concept of the "first world problem". Someone cooked your food wrong? There are people starving somewhere, you are in a vastly more preferable position to those -- but the knowledge that someone else is suffering from starvation does not in any way diminish your experience of (admittedly tiny) suffering caused by the unpleasant food. (That one takes a basic degree of self-control -- the "character" again.)

(Someone's taking away some privilege of yours in order to ensure more equitable conditions for others who never had that privilege? Well, pretty much the same thing. Which is why you see people hanging on to ill-gotten gains for dear life...)

So, that's why suffering and meaning are so often juxtaposed. What do we say to people throwing a tantrum over a minor inconvenience? We tell them to "grow up", i.e. that their suffering is not meaningful to us, and they should learn to extinguish that suffering in themselves.

Is it just to tell someone who is experiencing any suffering at all (even that of the minor inconvenience) to just, like, not suffer? That question also has no practical bearing. Ending suffering in oneself is the only end to suffering there can ever be. (Other than death, I guess. In death one is free from all suffering, striving, and meaning. I've heard that the ancient Thracians used to celebrate passings and mourn births, which I find much more logical than the ritually prescribed emotions of our culture. On the other hand, maybe that's why they're gone now :D)

Doesn't mean we shouldn't improve the world and end poverty, injustice, disease, stupidity, and other pretty obviously fixable forms of suffering. We just deserve a more meaningful teleology for that than just "ending suffering". Because I don't think "ending suffering" is a thing that can ever be done in light of the above. Even by an omnipotent being, since "potent" assumes power to change stuff, and "change" assumes the existence of "more preferable" and "less preferable" states. Might as well ask why there's something instead of nothing...

TylerLives

I never claimed that all suffering is good, or that we should maximize suffering, only that eradicating all suffering would be highly undesirable, and even impossible, as lack of suffering would inevitably bring about new suffering.

zoogeny

I think the trend of "Spiritual But Not Religious (SBNR)" is the most interesting.

I suspect a large number of people leaving religions aren't militant atheists convinced by the logic of Dawkins/Hitchens/Harris et al. Instead they are people who believe in some kind of higher power or spiritual unity in a way that is totally compatible with deism (or even light theism).

However, the traditional religions have left a lot of progressive minded individuals behind. Rigid dogmas and suspicious meta-physical commitments seem to turn people off.

This is an interesting space to explore. Many of these people would happily affiliate if there was some organization that met their needs.

BJones12

One important detail in the article, but not the headline, is:

> In short, these age patterns might be signs of secularization... However, it’s also possible that some of the age differences in religious affiliation revealed in a single survey could result from people becoming more religious as they grow older.

Here's an article from the same research firm last month that examines a different measurement: https://www.pewresearch.org/religion/2025/02/26/decline-of-c...

iandanforth

Good, I'm strongly against supernatural beliefs and any trend towards greater secular thought is a welcome one.

sepositus

For context, I've been a leader in various (American) Evangelical churches over the last decade.

The fundamental thing that I think many people need to understand is that many of these "changes" are merely an outward reflection of an inward problem. Meaning a large majority of these individuals were often pursuing Christianity due to some external factor. Take, for example, cultural Christianity. I've sat in rooms with people who have literally been in crisis because they don't understand why people don't stay for the potlucks anymore. The entire foundation of their faith was on the culture surrounding Christianity in America. With that now (as the article points out) fading quite rapidly, they are joining their peers in leaving (or, worse in my opinion, becoming Christian Nationalists).

Many of us have seen this coming for a long time. Heck, if you go back and read Francis Schaeffer's writings, especially his later ones, it's almost uncomfortable how accurate his predictions were.

jawns

I went to a Catholic grade school in the 1980s and early '90s, with a graduating class of about 50.

Some 30 years later, we had a class reunion. And I found out that there was only one other "cradle Catholic" besides me who had never stopped actively practicing Catholicism. There were about six or seven who had stopped at one point and then returned, often when they had kids.

But that still means about 80% of our class are no longer actively Catholic.

To what do I attribute this decline?

I actually think it started two generations before mine. Back then, parents sent their kids to Catholic school to reinforce the faith they were exposed to at home. In the following generation, many parents sent their kids to Catholic school to teach the faith because they weren't exposed to it at home. But obviously, if that faith isn't being practiced at home, it's going to be unlikely to stick.

The horrible sex abuse scandals absolutely hastened this decline, but the ball was already rolling decades beforehand.

myflash13

Note the article refuses to say it explicitly, you have to dig deeper into the footnotes, but the group that is gaining the most “switchers” (after athiesm/agnosticism) is Islam.

> The U.S. and Kenya have the highest levels of “accession,” or entrance, into Islam, with 20% of U.S. Muslims and 11% of Kenyan Muslims saying they were raised in another religion or with no religion. That said, overall, Muslims are a minority in both places: About 1% of U.S. adults and 11% of Kenyans currently identify as Muslim.

dkarl

I was a pretty intense believer in Christianity at an early age and also stopped believing pretty early. Looking at religion from middle age now, it strikes me that Christianity is not a good religion to not believe in. As soon as I stopped believing in the literal existence of God, I immediately felt uncomfortable with Christianity and had to distance myself from it, even though I was culturally and morally grounded in it. I had to get away, and I never saw any path to reengaging with it in a beneficial way.

I don't think every religion is like that. I think there are approaches to Judaism and Buddhism that you can participate in that don't demand true faith in the "spooky side," as one of my friends puts it. And I don't just mean being ethnically or culturally linked with a religion, I mean actively engaging with it in a regular and organized way. Christianity doesn't offer that, and I don't know if it could or ever will. (I tried the Unitarians.) If it did, I'd probably enjoy being "Christian" again, at least with quote marks. As it is, if I was forced to affiliate myself with an organized religion and participate in weekly ritual services, I'd probably choose my local Zen center or see if my Jewish friends thought it would make sense for me to join them. Going to a Christian church without believing in capital-G God would be unpleasant and unrewarding.

roland35

The big thing for us is we simply do not trust priests with our children. It seems ridiculous to go to a church where kids have been raped.

SlightlyLeftPad

Kids raped and covered up at every level.*

kulahan

At its height, priests were nearly as dangerous, statistically, as teachers!

blindriver

I'm switching back to religion. I used to not believe but after the pandemic and researching the immune system, I don't believe that a complex system like simply the immune system can be not only created by chance but can be spread across an entire population. There are many components of the immune system and even the endocrine system that requires things to be designed together, not randomly across millions of years and I've decided that we were designed at some point because it's too perfectly intertwined across different body parts.

drowsspa

If we were designed then it was a very sloppy designer. We can easily think of a myriad of ways it could have been done better. And quite mischievous to just leave all this evidence of evolution.

I think that the gnostics with the idea of a malevolent creator god would fit our world better.

sepositus

To play devil's advocate, are we at a state where you can confidently say the design is sloppy? I feel it's akin to looking at an incomplete puzzle and judging it prematurely.

loloquwowndueo

the shared opening to the esophagus and trachea in humans (and many other mammals). Hundreds of choking deaths occur in the US every year due to food obstructions in the trachea. Doesn't seem too intelligent to purposefully design such a hazard. Also the “incomplete” argument falls apart easily if the premise was a superior intelligence created it from the get go - if it was so, why would the “supreme intelligence” leave things incomplete as you say? Why not make them right from the beginning?

mrob

Vitamin C synthesis is a clear example. Humans do most of the work then fail at the last step:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vitamin_C#Evolution_of_animal_...

squigz

When you look at the robustness of complex systems we design (i.e., IT systems) vs the robustness of the human body, I think it is at least fair to say it could be designed better.

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card_zero

Vibe creation?

candiddevmike

It's unfortunate that your research led you to religion instead of learning more about evolution

cde-v

It didn’t. Just typical religious lies about how various things are too complex to have been “random”. The use of the word random gives it away.

throwanem

Be a little kind, won't you? It's always an occasion of sorrow to see someone turn his face from the world, and certainly I'm not prepared to assume myself immune to the same pitiable fate.

kulahan

This is such an incoherent response. Evolution and creationism are absolutely in sync. Do you think it’s somehow beyond the reach of an omnipotent/omniscient being to set up an evolutionary chain?

Many, many scientists start gravitating back towards religion. I’ll never understand the cocky approach with this topic.

BrandoElFollito

Who are these many many scientists? Real science I mean.

For a physicist for instance, being in god is symptomatic of a mental disease, probably multiple personalities disorder -- because these two concepts cannot live together in one brain that believes both.

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selimthegrim

Somatic hypermutation is evidence of a loving God to you?

warmedcookie

I don't see God or loving in his response. Maybe they believe in sadistic aliens from millions of big bangs ago?

jqpabc123

Religion means very little to most people --- even those who say they believe. Their actions are the proof.

zoogeny

I just want to jump on this because I was thinking about it just yesterday. I was raised Catholic but I am not religious and based on the creeds I would not qualify as a "true" Christian since I reject miracles like virgin births and resurrections of the dead.

But I have read selections of the bible, as well as a bunch of other religious texts like selections from the vedas and sutras.

The first parable in the gospel of Mark, the oldest gospel known, is Jesus talking about a farmer sowing seeds. Some of the seeds end up on rocks and birds eat them. Some seeds end up in shallow soil and wither quickly. Some end up surrounded by thorns and are choked out. Only a few land in fertile soil. But the crop that results from the grain grown from the fertile soil is massive, enough to feed people and leave over seeds to repeat the process.

The entire point of the literal first teaching of Jesus is: most people won't actually do what is taught. For various reasons, they will hear the teaching but it won't stick in them. But it doesn't matter because the few people who actually listen to the teaching and actually change their lives will be enough for goodness to spread.

So the criticism of "some (or even most) believers don't act as they profess to believe" is accounted for in the teaching pretty explicitly. Jesus even states later on how at the time of judgement many people will call his name and he will tell them that they never knew him.

surgical_fire

My main problem with religion is ironically not the belief in a Deity (or deities). I can accept that as an allegory, a sort of personification of the system of values said religion upholds.

My main issue is how a lot of people I see that are strongly religious also don't seem to accept the core tenets of the religion in their hearts. As an example, Christianity is a religion that professes love, but many practitioners are quick to hate others, etc.

istjohn

One thing I do appreciate about my Christian upbringing is having a church community, particularly as a parent. Has anyone found a good substitute?